on motherhood

Date June 13, 2008

I had to ask permission first. 

Now that this mother and friend that I love so but shall forever remain nameless has given said permission, you’ve just GOTTA read some excerpts from the letter that she sent me. 

There are those women who don’t gain a pound and never look like they even think about a piece of chocolate cake, much less conceive and give birth.  I’m not one of those.

Seriously, she looks like she’s still in college- not like WE did in college- more like the KD-with-the-Sigma-Chi boyfriend type.  And then there’s me.

I’ll let you use your imagination for “those.” I will just say- think African tribal woman teats.

Everything else just sags and what doesn’t sag is stretched horizontally and I don’t think there’s even a word for that.  Whatever it is, it ain’t pretty.

Those moments I start daydreaming about getting my old self back, I just add another thing to my “when I get plastic surgery”list and go on with my day.

Sometimes I wonder how we got here and then I remember- by the grace and blessings of a good and loving God.


2 Responses to “on motherhood”

  1. Dani said:

    I can so sympathize with her! I’m afraid that after this one, I will never stop sagging in all the wrong places.

    I’m much like you friend though. I know that the grace of God is what allows me to have children. I also know that no matter how much pain we go through, the end is the best blessings a woman can have. I just thank God everynight that I am able to experience it all. Wanna know my secret to not worrying about labor? I know that the Bible says child birth will be painful. It also tells us that God will never give us more than we can bear. That knowledge makes me worry less about what is to come in another month!

    Wow, I just wrote a ton! Sorry!

  2. Lou said:

    My 9 months was not that bad but the last 10 weeks was awful, but I will tell you this, had I not been 39 and having my first child I would have went through atleast one more time.
    There is nothing like being pregnant, and yes you wonder the entire time “will I ever get that flat tummy back” but when you see that sweet child that you have been blessed by God to have you don’t even think about it again.
    Shoot, I used to not wear shorts because I was so white and wondered how mother and aunt Sheila could wear them as white as they were and not think anything about it. Well, I know now… It is HOT and God made me this way and by golly I am going to be cool!